Sometimes people mistreat people and say things to try to make them feel bad about something they can't fix or something they are working on but it can't be fixed instantly.
Some people should look at themselves and their own shortcomings before they focus in on attacking someone else's weak spots.
Some people have no empathy whatsoever. Technically those people deserve the same lack of care, but this is not what the Bible teaches us. If you don't believe in the Bible then whatever positive philosophy you follow will likely agree. If a friend slaps you in the face, offer them the other cheek or something like that.
What are the effects of doing this? You don't feel bad about yourself later for attacking the person back, you have let go of the anger for you never possessed it and let it eat your attacker, for it comes from the attacker or the friend, and likely has nothing to do with you, it comes from that person's own personal issues, their own psychopathology.
A person may hurt you very badly with words and actions. It is for you to choose whether to carry that hurt like a heavy stone on your back or to choose never to carry it. It is very hard to do and it takes lots of practice. When I try to teach people these lessons while the situation is at hand, I often get the response, "I can't". There are very few cases in which a person is unable to give up the hate, the hurt, the stone and replace it with positive thoughts and actions.
For my own situation, I must let you carry your own stone of despair and loneliness, like a demon at your window you chose to let inside your very heart. I have hurt enough. I have already fallen victim to my enemies and even my loved ones and felt the pain in my heart no happiness could seem to cure. I was always sad, desperate, toxic in my own head, until I found a better path.
If it is your will to never be happy, to never be positive, to never be made of love and give it with devotion, to be your own destroyer, I cannot support your mission. I cannot be a stepping stone to your goal. I can however be a stepping stone to your redemption, to your happiness, to finding the gift that is within you, and showing you how to give that gift to others. Almost everyone is in charge of their own destiny except for a few that are babies or unable to function within their own minds. I cannot understand why someone would choose to be cold, heartless, and wish for their own doom whilst cursing the success of those around them. The very smile of another causes you to want to take aim at their joy and turn it into vicious pain. Let it go. You have been hurt as we all have.
Don't carry the burden of that alone, I'll help you, and in time don't carry it at all. You have to release it, painful as it is for it has been your security blanket for so many years now. I had a blanket just like it once. I am not your enemy, you are your own enemy. Stop yourself, let go of the anger, let go of the pain, put it in the God box if you have to do that. It's amazing what a prayer can do if you believe it will. Even if you don't pray to God, pray to your destiny, to all the power that is in the universe for what you want in this life. What if there never is another chance to live? Can you say you're proud of how you lived? Did you do right by others and right by yourself? If not change it. You're the only one who ever can, but I will be here to hold your hand.
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